“The horse is a mirror to your soul. Sometimes you might not like what you see. Sometimes you will.” Buck Brannaman

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by Melinda Folse (formerly Melinda Folse Kaitcer) Order it now at www.horseandriderbooks.com!

What a profound statement from Dan “Buck” Brannaman in the riveting documentary, “Buck,” now showing in theaters everywhere (learn  more at www.buckthefilm.com) . Go see it and reply to this post with your favorite quote! Free “Saddle Up Your Midlife Horses” t-shirt to the first five who respond!

What is most interesting to me about this statement from this celebrated “horse whisperer” is that, in the midlife horse experience we often completely miss this gift of pure gold.  It’s so easy to blame the horse when things don’t go as we hoped in this relationship. We deny what our horse’s  behavior may be telling us about who we are on the inside. Or, paraphrasing Buck and before him, Ray Hunt, and before him, Tom Dorrance, “horse problems” almost always turn out to be horses with “people problems.”

That invaluable reflection from our ponies, girlfriends, is the essence of what we can learn from our midlife horses. And, whether we like it or want to admit it or not, you can’t fool them or change their opinion. Horses just call ’em as they see ’em . . . and it’s up to us to figure out what changes we need to make so we’ll like what they see in us!

What did my horse, Trace, tell me? (I’m not sure why I’m sharing this, but it does give context to my struggles, documented for all the world to see in my recent book, The Smart Woman’s Guide to Midlife Horses.)  That I have an innate tendency to overthink, overachieve and overreact. That I am something of  a control freak and get upset when I can’t have my own way. That I am sensitive to others’ feelings and emotions, need a certain amount of sincere, positive feedback, and am happiest when I have a job to do or something new to learn. I don’t like being pushed around. There’s a certain amount of disrespect I’ll put up with from people if  I like them, but enough’s enough. And bullies bring out the  crazy in me.

Fortunately, my second horse, Rio,  shows me a sweeter, gentler reflection (if a little headstrong): I like to have fun, I’m sweet and committed (sometimes overcommitted) to doing the right thing, loyal as a dog, and my quirky personality gives me a knack for making people laugh — especially when things start to get too serious.

 

What does your midlife horse tell you? Don’t have a midlife horse, but wondering what’s going on in your inner landscape — and outward relationships? Get yourself one of these swishy-tailed mirrors and you won’t be wondering for long!

The Smart Woman's Guide to Midlife Horses by Melinda Folse (formerly Melinda Folse Kaitcer)

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Happy Trails!

Saddle Up! Your Midlife Horse is Waiting!

 

Lessons Well Learned

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Sharing the dream — and relentless effort— behind Clinton Anderson’s Downunder Horsemanship to help empower everyday horseowners to achieve extraordinary results:

In his latest book, renowned Aussie trainer and clinician Clinton Anderson reveals through his own personal stories, the lessons he has learned on the way to becoming one of the most respected authorities on horse training in the world. From meager beginnings as a skinny kid who didn’t know the first thing about horses, to a young aspiring trainer studying at the feet of two of Australia’s top horseman, to his current standing-room-only tours and sold-out clinics across America, Clinton Anderson has changed the lives of millions of horse owners looking for a better way to building the kind of partnership every horse owner dreams of.

Through interviews, personal observations, countless questions only a frustrated horse owner would know to ask, we developed the content for this book to not only follow the progression of Clinton’s life and experiences, but also to tuck in tuck in the lessons, tips, observations and special insights that readers at all levels could find useful and enlightening, regardless of where they are on the horsemanship journey. After countless hours of in-depth conversations, editorial finagling, and relentless attention to detail, all brought to life by the spectacular photography talent of Darrell Dodds, Lessons Well Learned is a product Clinton and I are proud to present to our readers.

Ranked in Amazon’s top 10,000 for the first two weeks following its release and landing squarely in the top 20 books in three different categories, Lessons Well Learned  is still enjoying a 5-star Amazon customer rating,  and its kudos are telling us we hit the mark!

Take a look at what readers are saying about Lessons Well Learned:

November 18, 2009
“Clinton Anderson’s Best Book Yet: It’s a GREAT guide to the progression of Clinton’s training method. . .it is so well-organized and will make a terrific reference manual for those of us who want to go back and fill in the “holes” in our horses’ educations.”

November 26, 2009
Finally a book that encourages trainers too!!!
Clinton Anderson has the easiest program by far for me to show my clients how I work with their horses, thus they can continue learning and teaching their horse when they leave. . .Great product Clinton! Thank you for not going over the same boring thing like other authors! Any professional in the business, or any new horse owner will be able to use your concepts, and get a better working communication with their horse as well as the horse industry as a whole!

January 26, 2010
Helps you think like a successful trainer
Clinton is one of the best, most effective trainers in the world and this book gets you into his head: how he thinks and why he does things the way he does. . . . If you’re serious about improving your horsemanship skills, this book deserves a place on your shelf.

Friday January 01, 2010
“I have this book and it’s been really helpful to me. Some of the things this book said repeat through my head over and over when I’m thinking about or working with horses.”

Monday January 11, 2010
“I read your book Clinton and am going back and reading various parts again and again! Absolutely loved it! Very impressive! I enjoyed the story of your experience at the beginning of each chapter.

Friday January 15, 2010
“I really enjoyed your book; especially the lesson about learning your limits. Thank you for your willingness to be honest about the fact that everyone including you has limits. It would have been easy to avoid using that lesson in the book, but you included anyway.”